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You have more control over your life story than you think

You have more control over your life story than you think

As you go through life, it can be easy to fall into the trap of thinking that your circumstances are out of your control. You may feel like you’re just a small cog in the machine, going through the motions and living a life that is dictated by external forces. But what if you thought of yourself as someone who has the power to bend the world a little bit in the right direction? Someone who is here for a purpose that is bigger than just eating, reproducing, and dying. Someone who can leave a lasting impact on the world.

It’s important to remember that we all have the ability to create and improve things in this world. It’s a God-given gift that we should not take for granted. And while external factors may influence our choices and circumstances, ultimately it is up to us to decide how we want to use our talents and abilities. We have the power to shape our own lives and make a difference in the world.

But how do we go about doing this? How do we take control of our lives and make a mark on the world? One key way is to set goals for ourselves and work towards achieving them. This could be anything from personal goals, like learning a new skill or improving your health, to more global goals, like making a positive impact in your community or advocating for a cause you believe in.

It’s also important to be resilient and persevere in the face of challenges. Life is not always easy, and there will be times when you face setbacks and obstacles. But it’s how you respond to these challenges that will determine the direction of your life. If you give up at the first sign of difficulty, you’ll never reach your full potential. But if you keep pushing forward, even in the face of adversity, you will be able to achieve your goals and make a difference in the world.

Another key to taking control of your life is to surround yourself with positive influences. Seek out mentors and role models who inspire you and who can help guide you on your journey. Surround yourself with people who support and encourage you, and who believe in your potential to make a difference.

Finally, don’t be afraid to take risks and try new things. Sometimes the biggest rewards come from stepping outside of your comfort zone and taking chances. Don’t be afraid to take a leap of faith and try something new. You never know what opportunities may come your way as a result.

In conclusion, you have the power to shape your own life and make a difference in the world. Don’t let external circumstances dictate your choices or limit your potential. Instead, embrace your God-given ability to create and improve things, set goals for yourself, persevere in the face of challenges, surround yourself with positive influences, and take risks. By doing so, you can leave your mark on the world and make a lasting impact.

Benefit from rejection and failure

If you can deal with the terrible feeling of rejection you will succeed far more by daring to try more and more.

To an extent, rejection is an illusion, it only destroys your ego (a false sense of self-worth to be more precise).

For example, what do you actually have to lose if you apply for 100 jobs and get rejected 95 times?

Here is what you get to gain for gracefully failing 95 times:

  1. You learn what employers want in a candidate from a real world interaction.
  2. You learn the skill of writing a CV and interviews by learning and improving after each application.
  3. If you ask the interviewers what they think you can improve on, you get huge feedback that is very valuable.
  4. It exposes your weaknesses to you, something that is very hard to figure out own your own.

Now, can you see how important rejection and failure can be? I know people who apply for jobs just for the purpose of having these insights in anticipation of a future position they are not yet qualified for.

Extend this to even seeking a life partner, or whatever and you will notice that there is a huge upside and very low downside to daring to get rejected.

In entrepreneurship, in particular, you need to be right just once to make up for all the times you have been wrong if you are daring enough to build very high-value ideas.

If you treat failure like the ultimate teacher you will not fear it.

Focus on the process and not the outcome

One interesting thing I have learned about learning that could totally change how you learn and enjoy learning is;

When you set out to learn something new (probably something tough), the first encounters are going to be painfully hard. That’s totally okay, and it should be that way because your mind does not have that prior understanding of the subject.

In the beginning, you should not focus on retaining. Your total focus should be on understanding. Even when you don’t understand clearly, be patient to spend a longer period of time trying to figure it out.

It’s very important for you to have the mindset that all the initial difficulty is normal and everyone starting something new and tough will have to go through it.

If more people can be this patient at the beginning of anything new, they will really be shocked at how good they can become over a considerable period of time.

The key advice here is, to learn tough things – do not even worry about retaining anything for the first couple of weeks. Try to understand the basics and don’t even stress yourself if it’s taking longer to understand. Resist the urge to know it easily.

Focus on the process and not the outcome. Be curious and let your mind wander through the challenge. It can be a fun ride!

Smart people are often just people who have more grit (passion + perseverance), something that can totally be cultivated.

How do you overcome the initial difficulty when learning something new? Share in the comments.

Problems in life are an opportunity for growth

Problems and disagreements seem like the worst thing we all want to avoid. But, they are also opportunities for us to find the best way to co-exist with others. 

Through problems, disagreements, and adversity, we are given an opportunity to think wide and far about someone and some things very dear to us. We have a unique opportunity to make a difference for the right reasons if we don’t let emotions overcloud our judgment and if we objectively try to find lasting solutions to those issues. Unfortunately, this is hardly the case as emotions supercharge us to only think of the worst of the other person and the situation we are in. 

It’s true that disagreements sometimes show people’s true colors, but also if you look at how you have reacted to many situations you will notice that your reaction was not your true color and it was driven by intense emotions. Be careful when you make a judgment of someone’s personality based on their reaction when they are mad and frustrated. 

Every problem presents a window of opportunity to question everything and to find better ways to avoid its reoccurrence. It’s all about being in the iterative mindset about the events in your life. To view life’s events as practice sessions, where every instance of adversity gives you room for improvements. This applies to all kinds of negative situations we find ourselves in life. 

What do you think? Drop your comments below.

Problems are inevitable, but they’re a learning opportunity

The key skill of life is learning how to navigate through problems. Whether you like it or not, you will face a wide range of problems throughout life, some trivial and some life-threatening. Problems are inevitable but all problems are solvable or can be made less severe by approaching them with the right attitude. The majority of problems are solved just by tactical patience. 

In retrospect, look at the scariest problems and difficulties you have faced in your life and notice how the outcome was often less severe than you had initially thought.  Usually, we overestimate a negative outcome. That’s how our brains are built – to fear and be hyper-alert to the unknown that threatens us. 

For all kinds of problems, be slow with reacting aggressively. Intentionally delay negative reactions and do not hesitate to do what helps solve the problem for good. 

The people you disagree with today could be your become your best partners or collaborators tomorrow, it all depends on how you solved previous issues with them. 

You don’t have infinite energy, so you have to choose your battles carefully. In reality, things that start as problems can become great opportunities if only you are smart enough to manage the challenge skillfully. 

For someone who has risen above their monkey (primitive) mind, problems become another part of life that you will inevitably face and have to find the best ways to solve. Every problem is an opportunity to learn and improve on this skill. 

From small problems to big ones, no matter how much you panic, the outcomes are going to be good or less severe if you are more thoughtful and slow with negative reactions. Be willing to find a common ground for all parties. Problems are inevitable, be antifragile, life is hard – face it!

How do you currently deal with the challenges in your life? Share with me in the comments section below.

10 thoughts keeping me awake in November

These are the things running through my mind a lot lately:

  1. You can learn anything possible, what is difficult to have is the motivation.
  2. A growth mindset is the driver of accelerated learning.
  3. There is always so much you don’t have a clue about that can illuminate and improve your next decision – find it.
  4. Humans are just more rational apes rationalizing their irrationality.
  5. Treat others kindly and most of them will reciprocate love and kindness.
  6. Pick the hardest things in life and chose to do them in a passionate way.
  7. Passion is not innate, comfort zones are.
  8. Give before you ask – therefore aim to do good at all times, the benefits compound drastically over time.
  9. Invest in networks and know when to leverage network effects
  10. Always think at least 10 years into the future when picking what to invest your time in.